Abuse
How do we speak about it
How do we own it
MY abuse
or
THE abuse
Do we absorb it
make it our own
Do we try to remove it from within
disown it
disassociate from it
How do we process those words
Does It become part of me
– we become consumed by It
– we allow It to absorb Us
– we struggle within It
– we surrender to It
Or
Do we hold it at arms length
– the thing that was done to me
– the thing that has affected me
– the thing that has crippled me
– the thing that changed my life forever
We each develop systems to cope with our individual situations
Those systems in turn become mechanisms
The mechanisms which allow us to continue to live
Some of us ‘appear’ to live well
And others of us don’t
No matter what the outside world perceives of us
The trauma
The abuse
has infiltrated our very core
pierced our soul
And created such damage that we will never ever be the same ever again
But one way we can alter the effects
Is to change
MY abuse
to
THE abuse
And in so doing
We remove the onus
From us
And give it back
To the Abuser, the Perpetrator
The one who did things TO us
Words matter
Context matters
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